Second Life Women’s Servant – No Money or Sex Involved.

It came as a surprise when a random guy messaged me offering his services as a willing servant, though many in Second Life would call him a slave. Even though I wasn’t interested in his offer, I found his story intriguing. People have various reasons for joining Second Life, and one of those reasons is the chance to embody a persona that they are unable to in their Real Life, for whatever reason that may be. Several years ago, I had an acquaintance who was a married to a woman and a father in real life. However, in Second Life, he was married to another man. It is not uncommon for individuals to assume a different gender in SL, such as women adopting male avatars and vice versa. For some, SL offers a chance to fulfill their deepest desires, including engaging in BDSM. The list of reasons why people join Second Life is extensive enough to fill several books. Hans caught my attention right away with his straightforward and courteous demeanor. It’s hard to respond with anything but kindness in the face of such politeness, don’t you think? “Greetings, Miss Newall. May I IM you a little? I don’t want to waste your precious time. I’ll be quick I promise. Nothing about sex, or money, no worries,” Hans said. “What is this about then?” I had to inquire. It’s uncommon for something in Second Life to not involve either money or sex. “Well, I am a servant, looking to serve and work for ladies who could enjoy having an assistant, a task man. All is free of course. I offer my services to ladies who might enjoy having someone doing tasks for them. Of course, it is a bit random. I don’t know you. I try my luck in case you would be interested and wanted to know a bit more.” When presented in that manner, my curiosity was piqued, and I expressed my interest in learning more. As any writer or journalist would, I requested an interview with him. I was familiar with this type of service. A long time ago, a friend of mine introduced me to her Butler (that was his SL name). He would follow her around while she made him do things like lick her feet and mine, all through emoting since it was pre-mesh and pre-bento. While it didn’t seem like a big deal to me, my friend enjoyed it a lot. However, the Butler was a bit annoying, always sending IMs begging for attention. Hans offers a different kind of service compared to our previous experience with a Butler. Unlike the Butler, who constantly craved attention and demanded to be noticed, Hans remains silent and obedient unless instructed otherwise. He carries out his duties dutifully and without question, almost like a professional servant. During our interview, he even took the time to clean my pool, which is now sparkling clean. In fact, I have a feeling that if I asked him to, he would even read a book to me.  Hans has been providing his service as a servant for the past 13 years, and according to him, it stems from his interest in BDSM. However, he clarifies that he is not a typical slave (although in my opinion, there is nothing typical about being a slave). In real life, he is a 45-year-old executive engineer who is currently single. He has no interest in offering sex or receiving monetary rewards for his service. His only desire is to serve and obey the ladies who request his services. “BDSM is complex. It is not sexual but more mental excitement. Loving to obey. Losing control. Working to please a bossy woman. I have many landowners or shop owners using me. BDSM is huge. I don’t like pain. I don’t like classic BDSM. It is more, for me,  about worshiping a woman, doing his best for her, to please her. When a lady doesn’t understand why I love to serve, I say I come from BDSM to explain it quickly, but it’s not totally exact. My pleasure comes from seeing a woman loving to be in control.” BDSM is a prominent industry in Second Life, and although it’s not a lifestyle I follow, being in SL for an extended period means you inevitably come across it. “It is about loving to feel the power of a beautiful woman, losing my self-control, giving the control of what I’ll do. Some women use me to serve drinks at their parties. Others to sort out their old landmarks. Some to greet people at their shop. Some to carry their shopping bags while shopping. Some to write Notecards, etc.”  Free worker anyone?

Hans takes pleasure in serving without any monetary reward. In fact, being thanked for his service makes him feel uncomfortable. He is willing to do anything you ask of him, even tasks he finds boring. Being a submissive to please women is what he enjoys most.

According to my acquaintance, I have a tendency to be bossy at times. However, I believe that asking for something without saying “please” and “thank you” is a bit harsh and can be difficult to do. During the interview with Hans, I was aware of this and made an effort to be polite, even though it was only an interview. I must admit that I have grown fond of being addressed as “Miss Newall,” so I might ask my right-hand man and little brother, Sam, to call me that from now on, just for fun! 🤣 Hans would likely be a desirable servant for women who are naturally dominant and enjoy being in control. “It’s a win-win situation.  The lady has no effort to do, no thanking or being nice. She calls me whenever she wants, ‘Servant, come here. You will serve drinks and shut up for as long as I want to,’ and I do it, feeling excited to lose my control.”

To what extent does the attraction between a Second Life servant and the ladies he serves play a role in his selection process?

Well, it typically begins with a fetish. Although there are no romantic feelings involved, there still needs to be a level of attraction towards the women he serves. It’s reasonable to assume that one would find it difficult to worship someone if there isn’t some form of attraction towards them. As Hans has a fetish for heels, it made me curious as to why he contacted me when I was at home, where I usually do not wear shoes.

“According to my experience, most women in SL wear high heels,” he mentioned, although on that particular day, I happened to be lounging by the pool, so I was barefoot.

How did Hans become a Second Life servant and what was his starting point?

Hans took a chance and simply asked. To his surprise, he found that rejection was not as high as he anticipated. He estimates that around 50-60% of women are interested in trying, while 40% politely decline, saying things like “I hope you find a lady who enjoys that, but I’m not interested.” Only about 1% of women have been rude to him.

“Even more surprising is the number of women who enjoys it after trying. I even remember one who now lives a BDSM lifestyle. She discovered this side of her, thanks to my service, realising she enjoys very much that power over men.”

What about the sexual aspect of this kink? Wouldn’t it be arousing for him?

According to Hans, he has never had any romantic or sexual feelings for any of the women he has served. He finds fulfillment in obeying and being mentally submissive to a dominant woman. The sexual component exists solely in his mind and remains private.

Hans remains by the side of his ladies even when they engage in other activities such as chatting with friends for hours. The feeling of being ignored is part of the submission and humiliation that Hans enjoys, and it can even bring him to masturbate. However, this private aspect of Hans remains behind the screen and is not of interest to the ladies. They don’t ask or talk about it. Their main interest is having a man as a servant and enjoying the power dynamic of being able to boss him around. When it comes to Hans’ service, there is no formal contract, designated schedule, or exclusivity. He is a “servant on call,” with a list of women he serves. If one of them contacts him, he complies with her request. If another woman reaches out at the same time, he informs her that he is already in service. There are certain rules that are outlined at the start of each service. “Sometimes no one calls me for a week, then I’ll get three calls at the same time.” If the lady is in a relationship, he can still serve. “They use me as a family butler, house guard, etc.” Before Second Life, no one knew about his BDSM tendencies, because he felt ashamed of it. “SL helped me assume this side of me and to discuss it with my friends and family.” For Hans, this arrangement works because he enjoys being treated as a willing slave without any care or empathy. He does not develop any romantic feelings for any of the women he serves, but that does not mean he is indifferent. He simply cannot form any friendships because it would jeopardize his “slave” identity. “I have worshiping feelings. I see the woman as a Goddess, unreachable.” I’m curious to hear your opinions, ladies. It’s a no-strings-attached, completely free service with no commitment required. You can even use his service just once if that’s all you need. There’s no sex involved, and no emotional entanglements, so you don’t have to worry about any headaches or drama. It sounds like a great deal, don’t you think? Please share your thoughts in the comments section below, and feel free to check out Hans if you’re interested in trying his service.